Very often we are easily consumed over things that are said or done, wishing how we could have responded differently, or wishing life wasn’t how it has turned out to be. However, to have such thinking, dwelling on these things won’t change what have been done or said as it is useless to hold onto them. In any case, these things will keep us in a self-perpetuated cycle of suffering.
What can we do then to get out of this cycle of suffering? Well, we can use these emotions as a doorway to forgiveness – either for ourselves or unto others. And when we can begin to see our guilt or regret as signals (signals that inform us when we have said or done something that was not aligned with our morals, or how we’d like to live our lives), these emotions will then become learning opportunities, and not something we use to beat ourselves up over.
The main lesson is in not wanting to repeat the same mistake, the same action, or the same reaction – and through meditation for forgiveness, it will provide the conditions to achieve this liberating possibility.
What is Forgiveness Meditation?
When we understand how the mind works – in which meditation helps us to achieve it – we are then able to take proactive measures to prevent us from falling into the same habitual thinking.
Having said that, regret and guilt are the two main emotions that trap us in a repetitive loop of negative thought – continuously playing the situation over and over in our minds.
In addition, anger, resentment and hurt all fuel negative mental chatter, and that internal dialogue usually obsesses over the wish that we could have said or done things differently. It is difficult to ignore these thoughts, and the more we listen to them, the worse we will feel about ourselves.
That said, this is where meditation and forgiveness can cross path as both are able to teach us that we are all humans, and being humans means that it is only inevitable that we are going to make mistakes. And if we are able to hold onto this awareness instead of imprisoning ourselves to guilt and regret, then we are able to learn to free ourselves so that we are engaged with the present and not the past.